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BDSM Saved My Failing Marriage from Divorce

BDSM Saved My Failing Marriage from Divorce

When you think of a person who’d be into kinky sex, I’m the last person you’d imagine. I’m a mom of two (with the stretch marks to prove it) who’s been happily married for nearly 20 years. I volunteer at the school, work part-time in 

How to Get the Spark Back in Your Relationship

How to Get the Spark Back in Your Relationship

Falling in love is like having a new toy with lots of secret compartments to discover. Staying in love… well, that’s a different story. After a while, “‘til death do us part” can seem like a pretty long time to keep the spark alive. (Like…forever…actually!) 

How Wrestling Is Saving My Marriage

How Wrestling Is Saving My Marriage

It’s hard to not to find the childish amusement in two grown-ups thrashing around like floppy fish. Most times our bout ends with us laughing, sometimes we have sex, and occasionally we take a nap.

“I’m going to wrestle you so hard right now,” my husband Craig says to me.

We’re in the kitchen, making chicken tacos, and I just told him he’s cutting the onion wrong. I’m cranky. I’ve been sleeping terribly, my night terrors rearing their ugly delusional heads. Earlier in the week, I thought a rumpled bathrobe on the floor next to the bed was our 3-year-old daughter Hattie, dead. I got up and screamed. I also punched Craig in the back.

As if he wasn’t already pissed at me, I’ve been letting my clothes pile up all over the house, something he can’t stand. Me, I’m annoyed that he’s been working on the computer long after the workday is over and is quick to lose his patience with Hattie, leaving me to clean up the tearful aftermath. Around the house, there’s no shortage of outbursts involving the word “fuck.”

Any chance we have to talk or cuddle or watch a movie together to make up is co-opted by Hattie, who has decided bedtime is the hour to try on every piece of clothing she owns, or by our newborn daughter Marvin, who needs to be at my breast at all times.

So we wrestle.

In the 10 minutes we have before we both pass out and start the parenting-work circus that is our life all over again the next day, we collapse on the bed, our makeshift wrestling ring. It begins gently enough, with some rolling and tousling of the hair, nothing too major, and picks up as our bodies start to feel really good about slamming into one another. He chicken-wings me, a move he perfected with his little brother. I knee him close to his crotch. We have no rules; anything goes.

The thing is, I like wrestling. Maybe even love it.

See, I have a little sister, but growing up we would only fight in the ways that females stereotypically do. Sort of. When we were younger, I’d pull her hair and chase her with a vacuum cleaner, the mere threat of it enough to send her screaming to her room. (A memory my mother never lets me forget even now at 35-years-old.) When we were in our teens, we’d steal each other’s clothes and stay on the one landline phone we all shared way longer than we said, out of spite. In our adult life, it looked more like throwing purses and calling each other every curse word imaginable.

Yet, while those outbursts might have temporarily relieved some frustration, they weren’t enough to let it go.

That’s where wrestling—a sport I knew little about and continue to know little about—comes into play. In those moments when Craig’s pinning me or I’m trying to cheat by nudging him off the bed with my feet, it’s hard to not to find the childish amusement in two grown-ups thrashing around like floppy fish. Most times our bout ends with us laughing, sometimes we have sex, and occasionally we take a nap.

I never win. And I don’t care.

I hesitate to tell people about our wrestling trysts. For one, they take one look at me and don’t believe I’m capable of it. I’m soft spoken. I have freckles. I look like the type of woman who rode horses in her childhood. (I didn’t, as I’ve never really liked animals.) And when they hear I met Craig in the Peace Corps, then it’s really over. The Peace Corps. Surely I’m some calm hippie who eats kale and meditates.

While I do, in fact, love kale, what they don’t know is that there’s a rage I’ve inherited from my Irish, bipolar father hidden deep within me. I’ve been drawn to things I could hit my whole life—a volleyball or drumkit, for example—and have an unabashed crush on JWOWW from Jersey Shore for the sole reason that she’s not afraid to use her fists when necessary. Wrestling lets me safely tap into those primal urges that women have been typically told to reign in. Sit still. Don’t cause a scene. Don’t fight.

This body of mine that has spent hours, days even, pushing out two humans wants another body pressing up against mine that isn’t going to back down. That’s committed to this moment. That’s going to make me twist my limbs and bend my bones in ways I don’t normally do, and come at me hard. I don’t believe in soft. I never have.

On the bed, I thrust my body on top of Craig’s back and have an advantage for a few seconds. Then in an instant, he’s twisted himself out from under me and is holding my hands above my head. We stare at each other, breathing heavily. The kids are in a deep sleep. The laundry remains dirty. The anxieties about our careers and creativity are forgotten.

I surrender to the loss of control.

I examine the number of gray hairs in his beard, hairs that have multiplied in the 10 years we’ve been together, and think of the number of gray streaks popping up on my own head. I imagine us old together, and how delicate our wrestling will have to be with our creaky bones and droopy skin.

Then claustrophobia starts to set in. I wiggle free from his grip and tickle him in a moment of weakness. We both laugh and fall into spooning. Match over. His workaholic tendencies will probably annoy me another time, but right now, they don’t seem so irritating.

“I’m sorry about the mess,” I say.

“I’m sorry about working so much,” he says.

Nothing is completely resolved. Not yet, at least. But there’s always tomorrow when maybe I can get one more half-nelson in.

17 Naughty Sexting Games You Must Try Right Now

17 Naughty Sexting Games You Must Try Right Now

  If you sext a lot, you may be running out of ideas… which is probably why you’re here. Try some of these game.   1. PICTURE STRIPTEASE   It’s exactly as it sounds.  The photo sequence should be slow and teasing – a few 

The Right Butt Plug For Beginners

The Right Butt Plug For Beginners

Sex is still being considered to be a taboo for most of the present day people, the walls of secrecy and opaqueness surrounding it is coming crashing down for various reasons. The present day society is becoming more liberal and more open-minded. Both the young 

Starting Your Penis Plug Journey

Starting Your Penis Plug Journey

Urethral sounding in the Netherlands can be very rewarding when done properly. Ask how amazing it would feel if you could have intense pleasure both inside and outside of your penis at the same time. Numerous people have appreciated the unadulterated excitement, and with this useful assistant, you can also enjoy penis plugs, wands and urethra sounds safe. Lets heck out how to use penis plugs.

Check Your Penis Plug First

The most important thing to check is the way the plug or sound is made. These toys must be taken exactly to allow the safety of the urethra to play. Penis fittings and urethral sounds usually have curves, textured surfaces or even pointed tips yet the configuration itself must be suitable for the male (and female) urethra systems to allow safe use. Penis insertions and urethra sounds must be made so that they take into account a smooth and safe insertion. Check that the spike of a penis attachment is smooth and made of thick smooth metal so as not to hurt the urethra during insertion. Check to make sure that no burrs or loose metal filings or flakes like most penis plugs are handmade. Try to purchase a penis plug at lustplugs for your peace of mind and assurance that you’re getting quality products.

At the moment checking the penis plug, make sure it is made in a way that guarantees a solid match and that will keep the plug in place. It is essential that a penis plug is properly fitted so that it will not go further into the urethra than is intended. This is the reason that a penis fixation in Dutch should be looked at first – a jerk ring will hold its place or a penis plug with a stop will ensure that it does not fully slide into the urethra.

Which Penis Plug or Sound should I choose?

The smooth and rounded tip on most penis plugs is set up so that your delicate urethra is bound for a wonderfully tender piece when you place your plucked penis plug or urethral sound through your ear canal and into your urethra. With for the more amazing and exciting styles of penis plugs and sounds until you used to get the feeling and work you slowly towards the more experienced types. Lear to swim first before you jump into the deep.

Generally it is great to have a penis plug with a ring or extended end so that it does not slip in and get lost or plugged with a stopped. As for material, surgical stainless steel is the safest and most used but you will discover plugs in aluminum and silicon. These materials are safe and easy to disinfect body after use.

Another thing to consider is keeping the plug in place. It is often difficult to pit the plug because of the urethral muscles trying to keep the insertion push. As a novice you need to practice with a specific goal to figure out how to hold your penis plug in place. Various types of glands rings are used to hold the plug but these rings are in many sizing’s so you have to make sure that you get the size right.

 

What Lubricant should you use?

We cannot emphasize enough; you must use a sterile lubricant. Lubricant will help your sound or plug to float rather pleasantly while the sterile lubricant will keep you from infection or damage. A sterile lubricant such as lubricant is unbelievable or longer term playing something like Super Slide.

In case it’s your first time go slow! Your fist penis plug must be simple and easy to place. Before inserting use a lot of lubricant and relax, breathe. Take as much time as needed and appreciate a whole new universe of enjoyment. Begin while your penis is in flaccid condition and slowly insert the plug into the comfortable doorway of your penis. Keeping your penis at a 90 degree point of your body, slowly slide the sound or the plug in. Attempt to let gravity and the heaviness of the sound pull the sound down into your penis. At that point once it is more than four inches, it will normally turn marginally.

Appreciate! & Finishing with a Flourish

When you put your sound or module in and it feels right a comfortable, explore different ways, use lightly delicate strokes on your penis. Some men simply enjoy the thrill of the sound sliding in and out.

After such a lot of wonderful new sensations you are willing to let climax rise through your body. Here are a few things to consider. In the event that you are using a cum thru penis plug your prized cum will simply turn out the end even without glance or blush. In case you started with urethral sounds or a strong gag, we advise you to slither them delicately to prevent venting into retrograde ejaculation.

So that’s it, but remembers if you do not experience any pain during the urethra stop if that is pain after contacting your local doctor.

Vagina and Ben Wa Balls: The Perfect Combination

Vagina and Ben Wa Balls: The Perfect Combination

Beginners, women who want to exercise after their pregnancy to get their pelvic floor muscles in shape again, or 50-plus ladies can best choose for larger and lighter balls. Experts advise to start with a light ball on a sturdy string, made of safe silicone. 

Yoni Eggs Benefits That You Need To Know

Yoni Eggs Benefits That You Need To Know

Yoni eggs are something very personal and we believe that every woman feels best which egg fits her. To start with, we recommend using the yoni egg of quartz or jade. If you plan to give yoni eggs to a friend or acquaintance, it is 

Guide to Stimulating the Prostate

Guide to Stimulating the Prostate

Prostate stimulation is necessary for the overall well-being of the prostate health. On top of that, stimulation of the prostate gland can transcend you to the peak of orgasmic delight. Doctors often recommend prostate stimulation for easy ejaculation and smooth love life. Are you new to prostate stimulation and looking for some guidance? Well, prostate is a sensitive area and you have to know how to stimulate it the right way. But no worries- the post below offers a brief on how to stimulate the prostate effectively.

Locate the prostate

It all starts with locating the prostate gland in your body. The prostate gland is located 2-3” inside your rectum. It’s a small thing, something as little as a walnut. Try to find it by inserting finger in the butt. Finger is a good choice because it’s small & can be flexed easily while reaching out through anus. But, before you insert your finger, make sure to lubricate it well. You will just need the first couple of joints to reach up to the prostate.

A good way to locate the prostate easily is self-arousal. Do anything that will help you to arouse yourself. When you are aroused, the prostate gland gets enlarged which makes it more convenient to spot it inside the body.

Let’s proceed with the stimulation guide

It’s very easy! It’s not a rocket science involving bringing butt plugs to Mars, no! Once you have a fair idea on the location of your prostate, the next step is to make preparations for prostate stimulation.

Fingers or massagers

First decide on the stimulation medium. Would you be okay with fingers? A lot of men prefer to use finger for stimulation for the best control on the overall process. But a massager is said to offer the maximum pleasure. If you are looking to buy a massager, keep these points in mind:

  • Look for a trusted & reputed brand backed by happy users
  • Begin the experience with a small massager with thin diameter initially
  • Only go for a massager which is made from FDA-accredited non-porous materials
  • The massager should be simple to clean
  • For safe anal use, look for a massager with flared base
  • If you want to control the massager manually, go for a one with handle
  • Massagers with curve tip and bulbous head are the best for optimum stimulation

Calm down & clean yourself

So, now you are all set to begin your stimulating experience. You must be very excited now and little stressed too. But relax. If you are too tensed, the muscles in the anus region will get tensed too and won’t help you with insertion. So, one of the primary tips for an effective prostate stimulation is to calm yourself. Take a warm shower to cool down your nerves. Wash the anus area properly. If you are going to stimulate with fingers, cut down and clean the nails thoroughly.

Don’t get stressed. Contemplate on the amazing feeling you are going to experience from the prostate stimulation to inspire yourself. Light up some scented candles to create a soft relaxing mood. You can also play some relaxing music. Take deep breaths and prepare yourself mentally.

Lubrication is significant

Anus doesn’t have the capacity to self-lubricate. Thus, you have to lube up the area properly before starting with any insertion. But before you lube the anus, massage it well. Press the tip of your finger as if you are pressing on a doorbell & then release pressure. A good massage session will relax the muscles in the anal region to allow a smooth insertion for prostate stimulation. After that, you will lube up the internal side of the anus too. There are lube syringes which will enable you to lubricate the internal muscles of anus.

Then, you will lubricate your finger as well- the finger that you are going to insert inside for stimulation. If you are using a prostate massager, lube it.

Start the stimulation

Now, we have reached to the main part of our guide. Once you are completely relaxed and everything has been lubed up properly- you can start with the stimulation process. There are various ways to stimulate your prostate gland. But everything will depend on your preferences as the preferred stimulation movements tend to vary from one man to another. However, here are some most loved movements for an euphoric prostate stimulation-

  • The doorbell movement on the gland as you did with your anus
  • circular movements around prostate edge
  • come-hither motion that replicates the classic fingering of vagina
  • Movement of fingers in fast & random motion to arouse vibrations

Now, these are the stimulation tactics with fingers. We will now discuss how to stimulate with a prostate massager. We will talk about hands-free massager stimulation here.

Slowly insert the prostate massager into your anus. The good thing is you don’t need to use fingers  to push it inside. If the internal muscles are well lubed, these will do it for you. Now, after the device gets into your body, start clenching the pelvic muscles. This movement will glide the massager to your prostate and press it for an enjoyable hands-free stimulation.

Find the right position

Your body posture is extremely important to ensure the best stimulation experience. You can squat or lie on the side or even lie down on back. Regardless of the posture you choose, just make sure you are being able to reach out to your prostate gland comfortably. You can use pillows behind your back or some extra support.

However, internal prostate stimulation may seem to be little scary for the beginners. To overcome the fear, experts suggest to start with external stimulation first. In external stimulation you don’t have to reach to the gland internally. Rather you will perform the stimulation from outside, on the perineum area, near the anus. The perineum area is located in between anus and scrotum. When you will massage the area, it will indirectly arouse your prostate gland as well. Once you are accustomed and confident with external stimulation, then you can move to internal massage.

The Future Of VR And Interactive Porn

The Future Of VR And Interactive Porn

We’re already in a fairly high-tech state, but you know things won’t stop there. Aside from headsets becoming smaller, more sophisticated, and more affordable, bodysuits are probably going to be next in line – there is already research being done on smart textiles.   Not to mention